tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post4219921583964280999..comments2023-05-03T05:22:30.162-04:00Comments on Mary Haseltine: Twenty Week Pregnancy NotablesMary @ Better Than Edenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-14743778170657663572015-01-04T18:21:30.117-05:002015-01-04T18:21:30.117-05:00Ah, yes. The end gift! After the birth :p Worth...Ah, yes. The end gift! After the birth :p Worth it!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-25175499731932882472015-01-04T17:08:27.092-05:002015-01-04T17:08:27.092-05:00I love this post. lol. I am tempted to comment on ...I love this post. lol. I am tempted to comment on everything but I won't. I'll just say. I HEAR YOU! I'm not pregnant, btw... but I remember. Strongly. My back. My leg cramps. My nesting that stopped coming with baby #5. My sickness that seems to get worse every time. (See, I told you I wouldn't comment on everything... just most things.) And then... the beautiful, adorable, squishy BABY! Eye on the prize, girl! Eye on the prize! melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08677295427283294982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-23184891386763441982015-01-04T15:47:00.763-05:002015-01-04T15:47:00.763-05:00It IS crazy. And if you have read about asymmetric...It IS crazy. And if you have read about asymmetrical tonic reflex, it is has been noted that many children with it have developmental delays. He had some serious fine motor delays as a preschooler, and never did get a textbook pencil grasp, even with physical and occupational therapy, but he went through school just fine and is almost a college graduate and getting married in June! He's going to be a great daddy, too!<br /><br />And just FYI, if you ever have a mom with a baby who just doesn't want to nurse on one breast specifically, tonic neck reflex is a possible reason. My son thrived (and was rather chubby) nursing just on my left breast!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747308009364094199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-85747485278668471852015-01-04T14:43:42.274-05:002015-01-04T14:43:42.274-05:00I know! I've been blessed to not as yet have ...I know! I've been blessed to not as yet have had an OP baby but I bet that would definitely make a difference. That's so crazy that he still sleeps that way!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-40176512146710985882015-01-04T09:50:28.978-05:002015-01-04T09:50:28.978-05:00My second spent almost the entire third trimester ...My second spent almost the entire third trimester with his feet under my right side ribs. They were so sore I wondered if a baby's feet can cause a fracture. But, he was born OP so now I think it makes sense that he was putting so much pressure on the front of my rib cage He also had asymmetrical tonic neck reflex (would not even turn to nurse) and still sleeps that way almost all the time at age 22! I suspect he was in the same position for a long time at the end. How each pregnancy is so different is remarkable to me.Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747308009364094199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-30850261819212055512015-01-03T15:46:25.986-05:002015-01-03T15:46:25.986-05:00I totally agree. I think there were articles I sa...I totally agree. I think there were articles I saw floating around recently about even the CDC saying that u/s should only be used sparingly.Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-28588436322245323312015-01-03T12:55:54.405-05:002015-01-03T12:55:54.405-05:00Thanks for asnwering! I've always gotten one...Thanks for asnwering! I've always gotten one, but we've also always had insurance that coverered it. Since you didn't mention it in your recap I was just wondering if you opted not to get it. I definitely agree with your all your reasons and that's why I've always gotten one. <br /><br />I prefer to keep it to just the 1 u/s though and I think the 20-week one offers the most benefit. I feel like they are out of control now, and I've known several moms who had an u/s every visit (moms who weren't even high-risk or anything) and that does concern me. Amelia Bentruphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04289052534608175705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-11682197653491931852015-01-03T10:49:25.559-05:002015-01-03T10:49:25.559-05:00Wow. That was unnecessarily long.Wow. That was unnecessarily long.Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-87215663038173821832015-01-03T10:43:16.540-05:002015-01-03T10:43:16.540-05:00Ah, that's interesting! I don't mind nosy...Ah, that's interesting! I don't mind nosy :) I think we will with this one. Each one has been different. For our first we didn't have insurance until just a few weeks before the birth and didn't have the money to pay for one out of pocket so we didn't have any. Plus, I was too naive to be concerned with anything. I did for our second because of a spotting incident in the first trimester and then did do the 20 week (i think?) because I was much more nervous after the previous miscarriage and having a friend lose her baby at 24 weeks. With the next I didn't have any due to insurance issues but also just a sense of knowing that everything was okay. With the fourth I did have the 20 week because of hearing more and more about cases of serious issues detected that can be remedied immediately upon birth. I was uneasy about something being wrong with him for some reason. I don't think I'd forgive myself if there was something seriously wrong that we could have addressed, you know? Especially now that I'm older. It makes me more comfortable with home birth, too. But, yeah, I don't "like" the idea of them because of the unknown risks but I'm willing to take that tiny risk now, I think, if it would mean being prepared to handle a big diagnosis. It always feels like you're peeking in on something sacred, though. I think it's one of those things where you just have to discern with each baby whether the benefits outweigh the possible concerns. With this baby, I've been really lazy about scheduling appts. (I've only had one!) but I have my next coming up this week so I'll get the u/s referral. I guess it'll be more like a 22 week by the time I get there :) But I was also intentionally putting it off til the new year since our insurance keeps getting worse and we have a high deductible plan now. Would rather have that cost go toward the new year's deductible! I think this time will be the hardest not finding out the gender!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-57021339005294452752015-01-03T10:10:02.444-05:002015-01-03T10:10:02.444-05:00I tend to think morning sickness gets worse the ol...I tend to think morning sickness gets worse the older you get AND the older you get, the chances of a having a girl are slightly higher. <br />My pregnancies went like this,<br /><br />1st. no morning sickness - girl<br />2nd --slight nausea only when riding in the car -girl<br />3rd - more severe nasuea only when riding in the car - boy<br />4th slight nausea even when not in the car - girl <br /><br />So, can I ask a nosy question? Do you do the 20 week u/s? Why or why not? (maybe you already answered that in a previous blog post?)Amelia Bentruphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04289052534608175705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-78671272034956877112015-01-03T06:42:55.262-05:002015-01-03T06:42:55.262-05:00I'm learning :) Everyone in my family that ha...I'm learning :) Everyone in my family that has both says the nausea was worse with their girls but I keep saying the same thing…I think maybe I'm just older and weaker now!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-75989593764261164082015-01-03T06:41:42.373-05:002015-01-03T06:41:42.373-05:00Thank you, Amanda! That means a lot!
Thank you, Amanda! That means a lot!<br />Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-78227968119681440432015-01-03T06:41:27.955-05:002015-01-03T06:41:27.955-05:00Oh yes, the feet in the ribs…not heartburn at all!...Oh yes, the feet in the ribs…not heartburn at all! That seemed to be the worst with my first maybe because the uterus is much, um, tighter and toned than with subsequent babies so there's less room in there? I don't know but I remember often having to push those little feet down because they would get up under my ribs!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-73022013970293466402015-01-02T15:54:21.479-05:002015-01-02T15:54:21.479-05:00That's a really lovely belly. ;-)
Your nause...That's a really lovely belly. ;-) <br /><br />Your nausea sounds just like mine during my last pregnancy, which was ten times worse than it had been with the previous three. I lived on Stouffer's Mac and cheese and Popsicles, which the thought of is so disgusting to me now I'm embarrassed. I had three boys and then a girl, but I was also 39 during my last pregnancy, so I don't know if the worse nausea was girl or age related. I never knew if those stories about hormones (girl vs boy) were true or old wives' tales. I was stunned that she was a girl -- thought I was pretty good at boys, too.<br /><br />I hope you continue to feel well -- it sounds like you have a trick for almost every ill!Barbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00747308009364094199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-12304976139267739612015-01-02T14:43:03.833-05:002015-01-02T14:43:03.833-05:00Great update! So glad you aren't experiencing ...Great update! So glad you aren't experiencing any terrible pain and youre passed that miserable nauseau! Sounds like your back and knee are holding up so that's great! Praying for you!Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18162208045999030991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-640846201971673514.post-84737146312239290222015-01-02T14:31:09.917-05:002015-01-02T14:31:09.917-05:00Love this post! I find it funny that some people k...Love this post! I find it funny that some people know the sex easily by how the pregnancies feel. Yet, you talk to a mom of 10 and she doesn't notice those things. My aunt always went by the belly. She said girls hang out low and boys like it up top. Which was always right in our family. Of course, I don't have a girl so that hasn't been completely proved (or ever will, darn it!). I always had this one pain that everyone said it was heart burn but it wasn't. It was up high and I swear it was just a foot pushing on a rib. I couldn't sit up straight because of the pain and had to always slightly recline in a chair. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10215156031742880552noreply@blogger.com